Perspective taking and understanding social situations

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Who is this advice for? 

The following resources may be useful for children and young people who present with social communication differences and have difficulty understanding neurotypical social situations and difficulty considering and/or understanding the perspective of others.   

How will this advice support my child?   

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These resources will help your child:  

  • understand communication breakdowns can occur due to a mismatch between communication style. Begin to understand how to communicate their communication style to repair a misunderstanding.  
  • understand the perspectives of themselves and others using visual aids that clearly breakdown the language and thinking of others and themselves in a given social situation. This includes thoughts/feelings, the impact of their and others, words, and predicting what might happen next time.
  • understand given social situations (including changes or transitions) in a clear, visual way to suit their current communication profile.  

The resources within this section are NOT designed to tell people how to act or behave – they are designed to support the child’s social understanding.

Resources within this section can be used in conjunction with supporting the child or young person’s self advocacy.  It's important for children and young people to be supported to ask for what they need and to feel confident and empowered to share what’s important to them. Please see self-advocacy sections for further support:  

Self-advocacy for those who are non-speaking or minimally speaking

Self advocacy for those who are using language   

 

Advice

Support children when misunderstandings occur - Double Empathy

Double empathy:

This describes how difficulties in communication are not purely down to the autistic person’s communicative style, more that it is a mis-match between neurotypical and neurodivergent communication.

Try and support the young person to repair a misunderstanding when it happens by modelling language they could use, for example “I don’t understand X, please can you tell me in a different way?” 

Browse the 'Autism Understood' webpage to learn more about the Double Empathy problem.

Support with perspective taking

Use Comic Strip Conversations 

These can be used to support children and young people to:  

  • understand the thoughts, feelings, opinions of others that are different to their own
  • help neurotypical people understand the neurodivergent person’s thoughts, feelings and opinions
  • understand a different point of view and predict what might happen next/if it happens again 
  • understand the impact of people’s words and actions on others. 

Comic Strip Conversations are not designed to tell people how to act or behave. Explore the videos, webpages and advice sheets below to learn how to implement them.

Download the Comic Strip Conversations explanation sheet

Read What are Comic Strip Conversations

Watch the 'Using drawings to help children understand social situations'  video

Watch the Comic Strip Conversations webinar Nov 2020

Download the  'further information' handout' 

Support children to understand what will happen in social situations

Use social stories  

Social stories are used to visually and clearly explain what is going to happen in a given situation. They support a child’s social understanding of a particular event, activity or social situation that your child might need help to understand. 

They are NOT designed to alter or change the child’s behaviour, but simply help them to understand. 

'Speech and language training videos and resources': Watch a 10 minute webinar explaining how to introduce Social Stories.

'Using Social Stories to explain situations':  Watch a 5 minute webinar demonstrating practical examples of using social stories to support social understanding.